Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Recently, I received the following email from a
member of the on-line Speed Seduction® discussion group. (Yes, we actually offer round the clock, 24 hour encouragement, advice on support with and for thousands of Home Study course owners around the world! How's that for backing up our clients and our products?)
Anyway, he asks about an important issue: what happens when a woman who was initially warm to you, suddenly turns cold on that first follow up phone call? Many guys blow this "test" and wind up walking away from some potentially awesome women and fun, fulfilling relationships. So let's hear what he has to say:
Hey All, After learning SS for four months, I have gotten some pretty exciting results, specifically people react to me in a completely different way. I am able to get rapport and talk to women easily. Also, when I do two brothers, the ideal relationship (put it in my three fingers and eat it) and the energy demo, I generate attraction. I have gotten good at this and at generating big interest as well.
I met a girl at the coffee shop. After meeting her and talking for a long time (like an hour) and running a bunch of patterns, two brothers, energy demo, self pointing, massaging the back of her neck, etc. I got her really going. She was having fun, she like me, rapport etc. She wanted to give me her number and I get it.
But when I called her back two days later she was not interested in meeting. When I call her, what is the best way to take her back to our last meeting? What are the best things to say to make her go back to those states? What are the best things to do during our first meeting to make sure that she will want to meet up with me in the next few days? What is the best message I can leave to make her call me back and want to meet? (This assumes we can't just change venue. Of course changing the venue instead of getting her number is better.)
Thanks,
G.
Good question, G.
Sometimes, people change their minds. It can be for ANY reason. You can do EVERYTHING perfect and still you will not get the girl; you will get good practice and a chance to polish your resourcefulness.
I also can't tell whether you got her on the phone or left a message, so PLEASE clarify and maybe I can help further.
Generally, if women are polite but seem disinterested, my response is, "Hey, no problem, no strings. I just thought you could REMEMBER THE FUN TIME WE HAD...and IMAGINE ENJOYING MORE..but, best to you, you have a good one."
No bitterness. No fear. No rancor. Just, ok, guess you just didn't get it or maybe you are just having a bad day.
Now, it is a DIFFERENT story if she is rude, and ice cold when I call. I've had THAT happen too, and it can be a shock when it is such a turn around from the first responses she had at the first meeting. Then my sponse is: "Wow...what a rude, cold way to have to PRETEND to be. Have a good day".
Then hang up. If she's just being defensive or insecure you've given her a chance to apologize and come round. Notice the word "pretend" which implies you think she's not really this way, but capable of better.
Understand, some women are super-moody. Some have an initial interest, but their fears of intimacy or their frozen nature just takes over. Some just think they are entitled to treat the world like crap. If she calls you back with anything other than an apologetic tone, hang up on her and write her off. Trust me, you don't need the trouble or bother. Move on with the gift of your
skills and find someone more fun, more pleasure, less bother.
Make sense?
For you at home, reading this, understand that an
important, but often neglected part of learning success with women is SCREENING. Learning to look for what you want and also what you will not put up with, and then sticking to you guns.
I will put up with women being ordinary humans, and, like all of us, having bad moods and bad days. That's just being wise and using your compassion.
I will NOT put up with women who are perpetually
frozen, emotionally cold, think they are God's gift to
men, have wild and frequent mood swings, etc
Remember as you move up the learning curve with
Speed Seduction®, YOU HAVE A GREAT GIFT TO OFFER. Don't give it or continue to offer it to those who rip off the wrapping only to use it for toilet paper.
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. To enjoy incredible seduction mastery, learn
just what you need to, in order to have power, choice AND incredible self-respect with women, check out your Speed Seduction Home Study course right now. Remember you get unprecedented 24 hour customer support, advice and encouragement at the online discussion group when you BECOME A HOME STUDY COURSE OWNER TODAY. Just click here:
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P.P.S. Already have a HSC and want a recommendation for a hot follow up product? Check out the amazing, hot off the press, Advanced Irresistible Arousal DVD:
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RJ
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Thursday, February 25, 2010
Monday, February 22, 2010
What To Say To Meet Women ANYWHERE!
Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,
Today I received the following question in email:
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I was wondering Ross, if you can suggest some icebreakers or opening lines to initiate conversations with? Like when you see an attractive girl and you want to approach her but you're not sure what to say. You want to say something but you're not sure what and then you think about it to long and its to late!
You know something comfortable that girls will smile at and want to keep the conversation going instead of us constantly talking.
I want her to say something after I initiate it so we can see if there is some chemistry there or not. And being able to get past "Hi"..You know what I mean? Are there some opening lines you can suggest I can use the next time I go out that are appealing? That way I will be armed with some ice breakers and will lead to getting to know someone hopefully.
Could you please let me know at your earliest convenience?
Thank you. Dimitrios
************************************************
Ok. For Dimitrios and all of you reading this:
This all depends on where you find yourself and what you see the girl doing.
This makes sense, doesn't it?
If you want a line that works in every circumstance, in every situation, no matter where you find yourself, and what the girl is doing, I guess you could go,
Hi..I noticed you here and realized if I didn't say something....I'd never get to find out what you're like..other than what I already know.
When she says, "What do you know?"
You say, "That you seem like you'd be cool and fun to talk to. I'm...YOUR NAME HERE".
You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.
It's not so much a matter of what to say.
No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.
Does that make sense?
Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?
Why?
Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.
If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself out loud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walk up and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.
So, I will say it again.
The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.
Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them? Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so, what should I compliment?
Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is, what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.
Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment, I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"
Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:
1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman(no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.
2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact in fact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and delivered with a MATTER of fact voice tone.
This means I don't overdo it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.
It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.
Really, this is about the sub -text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.
But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that ***I*** take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.
Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....
Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!
Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".
It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".
Ok. Back to compliments then.
I prefer to compliment women on the following things:
1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy a woman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."
Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.
No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.
The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.
2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."
Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi". That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.
Why is this important?
Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.
Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!
Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!
This, of course, is part of the number #1 rule in Speed Seduction®: Use your imagination to capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions!
3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.
The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.
So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, ""I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".
Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.
Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".
Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"
This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.
Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe. But let me give you just a couple I have used.
One day, as I sat having coffee, this woman walked into the Coffee B*** and T** L***, a local coffee house chain. I noticed immediately that:
1. She had purple hair 2. She had purple fingernails 3. She had purple eye shadow 4. She had purple lipstick 5. She was wearing purple gym clothes 6. She had purple shoes (Yes, I wondered if her PANTIES were purple, but I didn't ask!)
Now, I could have just made a straight comment/observation, as in, "Wow. I see you like the color purple".
Instead, I chose to be funny. I said, "Hmmm..excuse me...but I'm getting a psychic message about you from the spirit world.
Yes...yes..it's a bit fuzzy..hold on..hold on! Yes, the spirits are telling me..YOU LIKE..THE COLOR....PURPLE.
Now, she busted out laughing and that started the conversation.
nother time, I was with a friend in a restaurant/coffee place and we noticed this very cute Asian girl studying her text book so hard, her ears were about to start smoking. She was obviously having a hard time understanding it, talking to herself out loud and then obviously talking to herself in her head.
We sat at the table near her and I said, "Excuse me..can I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker and my friend and I have something very important to discuss."
Now, at that point, she busted up laughing and joined in our conversation.
So again; I can provide examples with this kind of opener. And I can tell you how to come up with your own. But you are going to have to match your opener to what you actually see and observe about her-does that make sense?
Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend-
1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.
2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!
3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.
Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.
In any case, whatever approaches you use, bear in mind one more thing I teach my students: 90% of the time, the worst that can happen is NOTHING will happen.
The image of the cold, cruel, rejecting, vicious "bitch"
really exists pretty much only in the movies. Most women, if they aren't interested (and most actually do respond positively to a sincere, fun approach, even if they don't get romantically interested) just won't do anything.
They won't yell.
They won't shoot a dirty look.
They won't hit you or call the cops or the bouncer.
Most, if they just aren't interested, simply WON'T RESPOND.
So get this: the worst that can happen is NOTHING WILL
HAPPEN.
Repeat after me: THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN IS: NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.
I've approached thousands of women, literally. In all that
time, maybe 5 instances have I ever been yelled at or have women had something truly vicious to say. And in those cases, I just chalked it up to something that had NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
Maybe they were having a terrible day. Maybe their boyfriends beat or abused them. Who knows?
I know if I approach someone in a fun, non-threatening, and sincere way, and they are STILL mean, THEY are the ones with the problem.
Again, this means it has to be ok with you if you don't
"win" all the time. Or better still; define winning as having fun, polishing your skill, and learning SOMETHING about the person you are going to meet. That's within the power and ability of EVERY person, and most of the time, you learn something quite pleasant.
Ok. Enough on this. Hope this helps. I've shot a video
series on this and am in the process of editing it. I WILL
ANNOUNCE WHEN IT IS READY, so please don't call the office and bug them about it, OK? They get cranky about that kind of thing and I'm all about...
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. You can have all the success with women you've ever wanted right now, by going to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
P.P.S. You can start meeting women, anytime, anywhere
and never worry about what to say:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Today I received the following question in email:
*****************************************************
I was wondering Ross, if you can suggest some icebreakers or opening lines to initiate conversations with? Like when you see an attractive girl and you want to approach her but you're not sure what to say. You want to say something but you're not sure what and then you think about it to long and its to late!
You know something comfortable that girls will smile at and want to keep the conversation going instead of us constantly talking.
I want her to say something after I initiate it so we can see if there is some chemistry there or not. And being able to get past "Hi"..You know what I mean? Are there some opening lines you can suggest I can use the next time I go out that are appealing? That way I will be armed with some ice breakers and will lead to getting to know someone hopefully.
Could you please let me know at your earliest convenience?
Thank you. Dimitrios
************************************************
Ok. For Dimitrios and all of you reading this:
This all depends on where you find yourself and what you see the girl doing.
This makes sense, doesn't it?
If you want a line that works in every circumstance, in every situation, no matter where you find yourself, and what the girl is doing, I guess you could go,
Hi..I noticed you here and realized if I didn't say something....I'd never get to find out what you're like..other than what I already know.
When she says, "What do you know?"
You say, "That you seem like you'd be cool and fun to talk to. I'm...YOUR NAME HERE".
You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.
It's not so much a matter of what to say.
No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.
Does that make sense?
Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?
Why?
Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.
If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself out loud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walk up and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.
So, I will say it again.
The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.
Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them? Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so, what should I compliment?
Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is, what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.
Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment, I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"
Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:
1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman(no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.
2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact in fact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and delivered with a MATTER of fact voice tone.
This means I don't overdo it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.
It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.
Really, this is about the sub -text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.
But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that ***I*** take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.
Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....
Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!
Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".
It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".
Ok. Back to compliments then.
I prefer to compliment women on the following things:
1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy a woman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."
Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.
No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.
The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.
2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."
Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi". That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.
Why is this important?
Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.
Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!
Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!
This, of course, is part of the number #1 rule in Speed Seduction®: Use your imagination to capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions!
3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.
The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.
So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, ""I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".
Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.
Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".
Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"
This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.
Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe. But let me give you just a couple I have used.
One day, as I sat having coffee, this woman walked into the Coffee B*** and T** L***, a local coffee house chain. I noticed immediately that:
1. She had purple hair 2. She had purple fingernails 3. She had purple eye shadow 4. She had purple lipstick 5. She was wearing purple gym clothes 6. She had purple shoes (Yes, I wondered if her PANTIES were purple, but I didn't ask!)
Now, I could have just made a straight comment/observation, as in, "Wow. I see you like the color purple".
Instead, I chose to be funny. I said, "Hmmm..excuse me...but I'm getting a psychic message about you from the spirit world.
Yes...yes..it's a bit fuzzy..hold on..hold on! Yes, the spirits are telling me..YOU LIKE..THE COLOR....PURPLE.
Now, she busted out laughing and that started the conversation.
nother time, I was with a friend in a restaurant/coffee place and we noticed this very cute Asian girl studying her text book so hard, her ears were about to start smoking. She was obviously having a hard time understanding it, talking to herself out loud and then obviously talking to herself in her head.
We sat at the table near her and I said, "Excuse me..can I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker and my friend and I have something very important to discuss."
Now, at that point, she busted up laughing and joined in our conversation.
So again; I can provide examples with this kind of opener. And I can tell you how to come up with your own. But you are going to have to match your opener to what you actually see and observe about her-does that make sense?
Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend-
1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.
2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!
3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.
Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.
In any case, whatever approaches you use, bear in mind one more thing I teach my students: 90% of the time, the worst that can happen is NOTHING will happen.
The image of the cold, cruel, rejecting, vicious "bitch"
really exists pretty much only in the movies. Most women, if they aren't interested (and most actually do respond positively to a sincere, fun approach, even if they don't get romantically interested) just won't do anything.
They won't yell.
They won't shoot a dirty look.
They won't hit you or call the cops or the bouncer.
Most, if they just aren't interested, simply WON'T RESPOND.
So get this: the worst that can happen is NOTHING WILL
HAPPEN.
Repeat after me: THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN IS: NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.
I've approached thousands of women, literally. In all that
time, maybe 5 instances have I ever been yelled at or have women had something truly vicious to say. And in those cases, I just chalked it up to something that had NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
Maybe they were having a terrible day. Maybe their boyfriends beat or abused them. Who knows?
I know if I approach someone in a fun, non-threatening, and sincere way, and they are STILL mean, THEY are the ones with the problem.
Again, this means it has to be ok with you if you don't
"win" all the time. Or better still; define winning as having fun, polishing your skill, and learning SOMETHING about the person you are going to meet. That's within the power and ability of EVERY person, and most of the time, you learn something quite pleasant.
Ok. Enough on this. Hope this helps. I've shot a video
series on this and am in the process of editing it. I WILL
ANNOUNCE WHEN IT IS READY, so please don't call the office and bug them about it, OK? They get cranky about that kind of thing and I'm all about...
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. You can have all the success with women you've ever wanted right now, by going to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
P.P.S. You can start meeting women, anytime, anywhere
and never worry about what to say:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
How To Get Any Girl Steaming Hot, In MINUTES!
Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,
In the last issues, I laid out the basic operating theory of Speed Seduction: that women have internal, subjective "recipes" for love, lust, chemistry, attraction etc that they run on themselves quite outside of their conscious awareness.
I pointed out also a that this "process" produces the "feelings" that they base their actions, decisions and choices on when it comes to us poor horny men!.
Therefore, as smart guys, we are no longer going to be fooled by "dating" thinking or "dating" questions which entirely ignore this vital information about how women get "feelings" and what is really important for us as seducers to think about.
So instead of being what I call A.F.C's(Average Frustrated Chumps) we are going to learn to enter of the world of Speed Seduction® and learn to rapidly trigger these internal feeling recipes that produce these feeling "states" so we can quickly and easily enjoy power, choice and variety with women most guys just have to wish and long for.
The key then is to ask the question: What kind of "states" do I want this woman to experience with me? And how can I trigger these states using my language: the themes I talk about, the stories I tell, the descriptions of my experiences I give, and the questions I ask?
You see, one key secret to getting a woman to undergo all her internal feeling recipes or "states" is..
GET HER TO TALK ABOUT THEM!
Yes, my friends, old Guru Ross clears up another mystery here: by talking about "feelings" women tend to unconsciously trigger their internal feeling "recipes" or processes, which then of course..
Makes the Feelings More Vivid And Real!
For men, talking is mostly about conveying a message or information. It can be the same for women, but much the time, talking is their way of unconsciously triggering these "recipe" programs that run outside of their awareness, so they can..
Enjoy These Intense Feelings Again!
What I am saying here is that there is an actual ongoing brain process where-by the language centers of the brain, when triggered by speech, somehow stimulate or cause her internal feeling recipes or processes for love, lust, attraction (or any other strong feeling state, positive or negative) so that these processes get run again and she can have the "feeling" experience.
Hey..I just explained TWO mysteries: why women are so "into" their "feelings" and why they love to talk so much! Nobel Prize, anybody?
Ok. Let's now give you a peek at some of the actual Speed Seduction® tools you can use over coffee, on a first meeting, or wherever you find yourself talking to a woman.
The first tool I want to introduce you to is conversational set ups and themes.
You see, it usually isn't considered normal or socially acceptable to launch into immediate discussions of have women experience "attraction" "chemistry" "connection" or "lust".
As important as these experiences may be, you need some way of introducing them into conversation so you appear to be a normal, non-threatening guy.
So let me introduce you to some key part of the Speed Seduction framework. In the brief example below we'll talk about conversational set-ups, quotes, embedded commands, priming patterns and trigger questions. Used in combination, these can get a woman to unconsciously run virtually any feeling recipe/state so she has the resulting feelings that will lead to the behaviors you want.
Conversational Set-Ups
Conversational set ups allow you, after just a bit of small talk, to bring up those themes, subjects and topics that are far more likely to trigger these "states" we are after in a woman: deep rapport, comfort, connection, fascination, lust, desire, chemistry etc.
Again, they let you avoid the taboo against discussing such things right off the bat or discussing them directly with someone you just met. And you can't just walk up to a woman and command, "YOU WILL FEEL LUST FOR ME".
A good way to bring up these "heavier" topics is to use a pattern called quotes. Quotes involves simply quoting a conversation or topic that you were having with a friend, or something that you heard in a seminar or read in a magazine or saw on t.v.
Quotes allow you to naturally bring up almost any topic in a non-threatening way. Why? Because you aren't addressing something to her directly. Just quoting what you said or heard said. So it is less threatening.
Also, we tend to use this pattern in language naturally all the time ANYWAY, as in, "Did you hear what Ross said to Rachel on "Friends"? etc etc.etc. The unconscious mind tends to recognize patterns of communication more than it does actual content. So if it feels to the unconscious like a natural pattern of communication(quoting someone else) then the actual content becomes a lot more acceptable.
So let's say you want to trigger that subjective "state" in a woman that involves feeling like there is a wild adventure- a real opportunity she has to act on RIGHT now or she'll lose it forever.
Here's how to use quotes to bring it up, "You know, I was having the most interesting discussion the other night with an old friend I had not seen in years (Conversational set-up, quoting you and your friend)
The next thing we are going to do is use a bit of language I call a "weasel phrase". Weasel phrases just set up the person to make a deep search of their inner experience without making it seem like you are giving a direct command.
You can't directly say, for example, "I command you to go inside your memory and remember what it is like to feel something and then feel that way with me".
Instead, when you use the weasel phrase "have you ever" it is actually a command but it sounds like an innocent question.
For example, if I wrote, "Have you ever read something and it just seemed so fascinating, you realized you want to learn more/"
It's actually a command to go into your memory and recall it, but it is much easier to disguise the command into the form of a question about your experience because that way you don't resist it.
Make sense? Let's continue with our example
"By the way, HAVE YOU EVER just had a friend, and you could just FEEL SO COMFORTABLE…FEEL SO CLOSE embedded commands-giving her commands to feel comfortable and close by bringing up the situation and hiding the commands inside a description of the situation-sneaky, isn't it). You could just FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANTHING?(another command to feel free to talk).
Notice here we threw in a few suggestions and commands: FEEL SO COMFORTABLE. FEEL SO CLOSE. FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING.
We didn't suggest or command directly. We hid them inside that "have you ever" weasel phrase-something that looked a question about her experience but was actually a command to go inside and search her memory.
Sneaky, sneaky, I know. But it works. Onward.
"So we were talking about how sometimes life presents an opportunity..and you realize that if you don't take the opportunity to have an adventure, you'll lose it forever.(focusing in on the topic now)
Ok. Now we are going to use a "pattern" or priming example: this is a description of your experience or someone else's experience. It is designed to "prime the pump" and begin to activate the structures of her brain and mind that produce and run her "recipes" as we discussed in the last newsletter.
"Like for example he was telling me how he had a chance to take a police car for a joy-ride..and how he could just FEEL THIS EXCITEMENT(another command embedded in your story) and it was just like this other part of him came out and he had to take this ride."
Note that little bit about "take this ride"-said with the right tonality it becomes a piece of sexual metaphor. This a way to help guide the "recipe" process towards triggering something that will produce sexual feelings. Note that it is not guaranteed to do this, by itself. It is just priming the pump. A start.
Now we are going to use "have you ever again" again to get her to talking. Why? Because please remember it is by talking women revivify and trigger their most intense and important feeling processes/recipes.
When she talks about her processes and "recipes" and experiences, she can experience the intense feelings we want her to have, and then we can link them to us.
Using "Have You Ever" A Second Time
We've used "have you ever" once to begin to prime her memory. Now we use "have you ever" again but this time it will activate those feeling recipes and processes by getting her to talk about them.:
"So I think because you can learn a lot about a person from that, have you ever had an experience like that..where you just had to go with an adventure that was in your path…take a ride that just seemed so irresistible?"
What have we done here? In just a few minutes we:
1. introduced a topic, guided her memory and imagination for a very important and powerful feeling "recipe" and process
2. gotten her to talk about it to revivify it and make it real again, all in what sounds like an innocent and completely normal conversation.
Not bad at all. Considering you can learn to do this in a 20 minute conversation, and you begin now to see the potential for unleashing your love life!
One more point: when you watch a woman as she describes these experiences, you will see her begin to strongly have these feelings. Often her face will flush, her breathing will get heavier, and she'll get what I call DDBL or the.
Doggie Dinner Bowl Look!
This is an expression similar to the ones my Dalmations I had as a kid would get when I would show them the can of dog food through the window so they knew it was feeding time!
Now, once a woman is experiencing these strong feeling states in your presence, because she's running her internal "feeling recipe" it's really only a short matter of time before you are baking your brownies in her oven(to use a metaphor again!).
Remember: women act on strong feelings. As long as the feelings are there, as the end result of her running her internal "recipes" she will not in any way realize or know how they came about.
She will only feel them, feel happy they are there and feel glad that you will be feeling her in all those ways her nice guy "friends" will never get to.
Ok. I don't want to overwhelm you . The study of using conversational set ups, quotes, priming patterns, embedded commands, command questions and other tools-this study is the core of Speed Seduction. But do go out and try some of this stuff and you'll be shocked to see it works and works amazingly well.
Just remember a key rule: Speed Seducers never communicate just to be flapping your lips. Communicate with an outcome in mind so you can direct and trigger her feeling "recipes" in the direction you want, you the result you want is what you get!
Til next time,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. As I said in a previous issue, this way of speaking may seem strange to you as a guy, and that is a GOOD thing. It's not supposed to be the kind of thing we GUYS respond to. It IS what women love, what triggers their deeper level emotional centers, and what stimulates their fantasies and sexual desires.
You can get started getting women hot and bothered by going to this link right now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
In the last issues, I laid out the basic operating theory of Speed Seduction: that women have internal, subjective "recipes" for love, lust, chemistry, attraction etc that they run on themselves quite outside of their conscious awareness.
I pointed out also a that this "process" produces the "feelings" that they base their actions, decisions and choices on when it comes to us poor horny men!.
Therefore, as smart guys, we are no longer going to be fooled by "dating" thinking or "dating" questions which entirely ignore this vital information about how women get "feelings" and what is really important for us as seducers to think about.
So instead of being what I call A.F.C's(Average Frustrated Chumps) we are going to learn to enter of the world of Speed Seduction® and learn to rapidly trigger these internal feeling recipes that produce these feeling "states" so we can quickly and easily enjoy power, choice and variety with women most guys just have to wish and long for.
The key then is to ask the question: What kind of "states" do I want this woman to experience with me? And how can I trigger these states using my language: the themes I talk about, the stories I tell, the descriptions of my experiences I give, and the questions I ask?
You see, one key secret to getting a woman to undergo all her internal feeling recipes or "states" is..
GET HER TO TALK ABOUT THEM!
Yes, my friends, old Guru Ross clears up another mystery here: by talking about "feelings" women tend to unconsciously trigger their internal feeling "recipes" or processes, which then of course..
Makes the Feelings More Vivid And Real!
For men, talking is mostly about conveying a message or information. It can be the same for women, but much the time, talking is their way of unconsciously triggering these "recipe" programs that run outside of their awareness, so they can..
Enjoy These Intense Feelings Again!
What I am saying here is that there is an actual ongoing brain process where-by the language centers of the brain, when triggered by speech, somehow stimulate or cause her internal feeling recipes or processes for love, lust, attraction (or any other strong feeling state, positive or negative) so that these processes get run again and she can have the "feeling" experience.
Hey..I just explained TWO mysteries: why women are so "into" their "feelings" and why they love to talk so much! Nobel Prize, anybody?
Ok. Let's now give you a peek at some of the actual Speed Seduction® tools you can use over coffee, on a first meeting, or wherever you find yourself talking to a woman.
The first tool I want to introduce you to is conversational set ups and themes.
You see, it usually isn't considered normal or socially acceptable to launch into immediate discussions of have women experience "attraction" "chemistry" "connection" or "lust".
As important as these experiences may be, you need some way of introducing them into conversation so you appear to be a normal, non-threatening guy.
So let me introduce you to some key part of the Speed Seduction framework. In the brief example below we'll talk about conversational set-ups, quotes, embedded commands, priming patterns and trigger questions. Used in combination, these can get a woman to unconsciously run virtually any feeling recipe/state so she has the resulting feelings that will lead to the behaviors you want.
Conversational Set-Ups
Conversational set ups allow you, after just a bit of small talk, to bring up those themes, subjects and topics that are far more likely to trigger these "states" we are after in a woman: deep rapport, comfort, connection, fascination, lust, desire, chemistry etc.
Again, they let you avoid the taboo against discussing such things right off the bat or discussing them directly with someone you just met. And you can't just walk up to a woman and command, "YOU WILL FEEL LUST FOR ME".
A good way to bring up these "heavier" topics is to use a pattern called quotes. Quotes involves simply quoting a conversation or topic that you were having with a friend, or something that you heard in a seminar or read in a magazine or saw on t.v.
Quotes allow you to naturally bring up almost any topic in a non-threatening way. Why? Because you aren't addressing something to her directly. Just quoting what you said or heard said. So it is less threatening.
Also, we tend to use this pattern in language naturally all the time ANYWAY, as in, "Did you hear what Ross said to Rachel on "Friends"? etc etc.etc. The unconscious mind tends to recognize patterns of communication more than it does actual content. So if it feels to the unconscious like a natural pattern of communication(quoting someone else) then the actual content becomes a lot more acceptable.
So let's say you want to trigger that subjective "state" in a woman that involves feeling like there is a wild adventure- a real opportunity she has to act on RIGHT now or she'll lose it forever.
Here's how to use quotes to bring it up, "You know, I was having the most interesting discussion the other night with an old friend I had not seen in years (Conversational set-up, quoting you and your friend)
The next thing we are going to do is use a bit of language I call a "weasel phrase". Weasel phrases just set up the person to make a deep search of their inner experience without making it seem like you are giving a direct command.
You can't directly say, for example, "I command you to go inside your memory and remember what it is like to feel something and then feel that way with me".
Instead, when you use the weasel phrase "have you ever" it is actually a command but it sounds like an innocent question.
For example, if I wrote, "Have you ever read something and it just seemed so fascinating, you realized you want to learn more/"
It's actually a command to go into your memory and recall it, but it is much easier to disguise the command into the form of a question about your experience because that way you don't resist it.
Make sense? Let's continue with our example
"By the way, HAVE YOU EVER just had a friend, and you could just FEEL SO COMFORTABLE…FEEL SO CLOSE embedded commands-giving her commands to feel comfortable and close by bringing up the situation and hiding the commands inside a description of the situation-sneaky, isn't it). You could just FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANTHING?(another command to feel free to talk).
Notice here we threw in a few suggestions and commands: FEEL SO COMFORTABLE. FEEL SO CLOSE. FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING.
We didn't suggest or command directly. We hid them inside that "have you ever" weasel phrase-something that looked a question about her experience but was actually a command to go inside and search her memory.
Sneaky, sneaky, I know. But it works. Onward.
"So we were talking about how sometimes life presents an opportunity..and you realize that if you don't take the opportunity to have an adventure, you'll lose it forever.(focusing in on the topic now)
Ok. Now we are going to use a "pattern" or priming example: this is a description of your experience or someone else's experience. It is designed to "prime the pump" and begin to activate the structures of her brain and mind that produce and run her "recipes" as we discussed in the last newsletter.
"Like for example he was telling me how he had a chance to take a police car for a joy-ride..and how he could just FEEL THIS EXCITEMENT(another command embedded in your story) and it was just like this other part of him came out and he had to take this ride."
Note that little bit about "take this ride"-said with the right tonality it becomes a piece of sexual metaphor. This a way to help guide the "recipe" process towards triggering something that will produce sexual feelings. Note that it is not guaranteed to do this, by itself. It is just priming the pump. A start.
Now we are going to use "have you ever again" again to get her to talking. Why? Because please remember it is by talking women revivify and trigger their most intense and important feeling processes/recipes.
When she talks about her processes and "recipes" and experiences, she can experience the intense feelings we want her to have, and then we can link them to us.
Using "Have You Ever" A Second Time
We've used "have you ever" once to begin to prime her memory. Now we use "have you ever" again but this time it will activate those feeling recipes and processes by getting her to talk about them.:
"So I think because you can learn a lot about a person from that, have you ever had an experience like that..where you just had to go with an adventure that was in your path…take a ride that just seemed so irresistible?"
What have we done here? In just a few minutes we:
1. introduced a topic, guided her memory and imagination for a very important and powerful feeling "recipe" and process
2. gotten her to talk about it to revivify it and make it real again, all in what sounds like an innocent and completely normal conversation.
Not bad at all. Considering you can learn to do this in a 20 minute conversation, and you begin now to see the potential for unleashing your love life!
One more point: when you watch a woman as she describes these experiences, you will see her begin to strongly have these feelings. Often her face will flush, her breathing will get heavier, and she'll get what I call DDBL or the.
Doggie Dinner Bowl Look!
This is an expression similar to the ones my Dalmations I had as a kid would get when I would show them the can of dog food through the window so they knew it was feeding time!
Now, once a woman is experiencing these strong feeling states in your presence, because she's running her internal "feeling recipe" it's really only a short matter of time before you are baking your brownies in her oven(to use a metaphor again!).
Remember: women act on strong feelings. As long as the feelings are there, as the end result of her running her internal "recipes" she will not in any way realize or know how they came about.
She will only feel them, feel happy they are there and feel glad that you will be feeling her in all those ways her nice guy "friends" will never get to.
Ok. I don't want to overwhelm you . The study of using conversational set ups, quotes, priming patterns, embedded commands, command questions and other tools-this study is the core of Speed Seduction. But do go out and try some of this stuff and you'll be shocked to see it works and works amazingly well.
Just remember a key rule: Speed Seducers never communicate just to be flapping your lips. Communicate with an outcome in mind so you can direct and trigger her feeling "recipes" in the direction you want, you the result you want is what you get!
Til next time,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. As I said in a previous issue, this way of speaking may seem strange to you as a guy, and that is a GOOD thing. It's not supposed to be the kind of thing we GUYS respond to. It IS what women love, what triggers their deeper level emotional centers, and what stimulates their fantasies and sexual desires.
You can get started getting women hot and bothered by going to this link right now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Monday, February 15, 2010
How To Use Easily Use Speed Seduction® Language Anytime Anywhere!
Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,
The other day I received this very good question from a reader who wishes to remain totally anonymous, I'll call him "Anon":
"Ross,
Can Speed Seduction® patterns can be used in school class room where exist lots of students? Because in our place (not United States)girls are much more conservative , if she wants to go out with you to have a cup of coffee , it means maybe you are her good friend or she like you a bit.
So I would like to know if these pattern skills can be used in much more noisy places that include lot of people or even she has a friend sitting aside her ?
(I bought the HSC product 20 days ago)"
RJ here:
First, congrats on your first steps into a whole new way of understanding people, as well as nailing hot women!
Listen: "pattern skills" are about capturing and leading the imagination.
Do people use their imaginations, have their imaginations awakened and led in crowds? In classrooms? With other people? When alone? When walking, sitting, standing?
OF COURSE THEY DO!
Therefore, language (and approaches) that captures and leads the imagination can be used.
......ANY FUGGIN' PLACE YOU FIND YOURSELF, BUCKWHEAT!
Now listen: I am a bit concerned about your question. Here is why.
From the way you put things, you seem to be thinking of patterns as some weird, "outsider" "other" category of communication. Something "alien", from another planet or another world that has to be carefully hidden, like a UFO or a monster, lest people see it unprepared and panic!
Please get this: the language patterns I present in the HSC (and other products) may seem alien, or "foreign" or "dangerous" or "odd" or "weird"..to YOU.
**********************************************
ADVERTISEMENT Get YOUR Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and enjoy awesome success with women today! ACCEPT NO CHEAP IMITATIONS! Get the real stuff here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
*************************************
But to women, they are a perfect match for how they think, ANYWAY.
This kind of language is instantly and UNCONSCIOUSLY
recognized and responded to in a positive fashion by women, because it matches the internal "maps" they have already laid down in the deepest levels of their minds about what turns them on, moves them, excites them.
Do you get it?
You are NOT introducing anything odd or weird or foreign..to THEM.
Remember, language that would revolt, turn off, weird-out and totally creep out us guys, is like HONEY to women.
That's the first thing to get.
Now, get this:
The patterns I present in the courses are only (ONLY)
examples. They are meant to train and teach and familiarize your mind with the kinds of talk that turn women on.
Yes, by themselves, just as written, recited from memory,
they can often be VERY powerful.
But eventually, through using them and UNDERSTANDING HOW AND WHY THEY WORK, I want you to be able to come up with you own, original stuff.
Now, here is the next understanding, based on what I just
said:
****Wherever possible, tailor, modify and adapt your language to the unique situation and the unique audience and environment you have in front of you****
How do you do this?
Well, first of all, you go beyond MEMORIZING. You have to really understand and experience the idea of capturing and leading the imagination and that this happens all the time.
You have to get that the imagination, fantasy, and right brain visualizing and emotion controls MUCH more of human behavior than you ever first realized, especially with women.
You have to experience how words can paint vivid mental images and create strong flows of feeling.
You have to understand(UNDERSTAND!!!!) how vague language and descriptive language can create huge flows of positive emotion and trigger mental images.
Once you really understand, then you can go to modifying
what you say to fit your audience and the environment.
You can match your language to:
*Something going on in the physical environment.
*Something going on in the emotional environment
*Something your audience is DOING
*Something your audience is OBSERVING
(It doesn't' matter whether you audience is one woman or 2 dozen women. These principles work regardless and irrespective of numbers).
Another principle is: observe who is most responsive to your words.
Example: let's say you are at a poetry reading and you are going to get up on stage and read some steamy seduction poems, like my "Fascination" poem which is actually in the BHSC.
What you want to do is SLOWLY read the poem, pausing as you go and make eye contact with the audience. Watch to see which women are most strongly responding: who is getting all "doggy dinner bowl", with wide open eyes, lips parted, breathing heavy, even nipples erect.
THOSE are the girls you will want to talk to, afterwards.
Whenever I am in a group of women, I always watch to see who is most responsive. Those are the ones I will zero in on for more attention.
Ok. Good questions. I hope the answers get you started.
RJ
VERY IMPORTANT P.S. I am shipping off the very first DVD copies of my newest product: Secrets Of Gold-Walk-Ups How To Use Speed Seduction To Easily Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere (and never worry about what to say).
Learn to meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say:
Just click here NOW:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
The other day I received this very good question from a reader who wishes to remain totally anonymous, I'll call him "Anon":
"Ross,
Can Speed Seduction® patterns can be used in school class room where exist lots of students? Because in our place (not United States)girls are much more conservative , if she wants to go out with you to have a cup of coffee , it means maybe you are her good friend or she like you a bit.
So I would like to know if these pattern skills can be used in much more noisy places that include lot of people or even she has a friend sitting aside her ?
(I bought the HSC product 20 days ago)"
RJ here:
First, congrats on your first steps into a whole new way of understanding people, as well as nailing hot women!
Listen: "pattern skills" are about capturing and leading the imagination.
Do people use their imaginations, have their imaginations awakened and led in crowds? In classrooms? With other people? When alone? When walking, sitting, standing?
OF COURSE THEY DO!
Therefore, language (and approaches) that captures and leads the imagination can be used.
......ANY FUGGIN' PLACE YOU FIND YOURSELF, BUCKWHEAT!
Now listen: I am a bit concerned about your question. Here is why.
From the way you put things, you seem to be thinking of patterns as some weird, "outsider" "other" category of communication. Something "alien", from another planet or another world that has to be carefully hidden, like a UFO or a monster, lest people see it unprepared and panic!
Please get this: the language patterns I present in the HSC (and other products) may seem alien, or "foreign" or "dangerous" or "odd" or "weird"..to YOU.
**********************************************
ADVERTISEMENT Get YOUR Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and enjoy awesome success with women today! ACCEPT NO CHEAP IMITATIONS! Get the real stuff here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
*************************************
But to women, they are a perfect match for how they think, ANYWAY.
This kind of language is instantly and UNCONSCIOUSLY
recognized and responded to in a positive fashion by women, because it matches the internal "maps" they have already laid down in the deepest levels of their minds about what turns them on, moves them, excites them.
Do you get it?
You are NOT introducing anything odd or weird or foreign..to THEM.
Remember, language that would revolt, turn off, weird-out and totally creep out us guys, is like HONEY to women.
That's the first thing to get.
Now, get this:
The patterns I present in the courses are only (ONLY)
examples. They are meant to train and teach and familiarize your mind with the kinds of talk that turn women on.
Yes, by themselves, just as written, recited from memory,
they can often be VERY powerful.
But eventually, through using them and UNDERSTANDING HOW AND WHY THEY WORK, I want you to be able to come up with you own, original stuff.
Now, here is the next understanding, based on what I just
said:
****Wherever possible, tailor, modify and adapt your language to the unique situation and the unique audience and environment you have in front of you****
How do you do this?
Well, first of all, you go beyond MEMORIZING. You have to really understand and experience the idea of capturing and leading the imagination and that this happens all the time.
You have to get that the imagination, fantasy, and right brain visualizing and emotion controls MUCH more of human behavior than you ever first realized, especially with women.
You have to experience how words can paint vivid mental images and create strong flows of feeling.
You have to understand(UNDERSTAND!!!!) how vague language and descriptive language can create huge flows of positive emotion and trigger mental images.
Once you really understand, then you can go to modifying
what you say to fit your audience and the environment.
You can match your language to:
*Something going on in the physical environment.
*Something going on in the emotional environment
*Something your audience is DOING
*Something your audience is OBSERVING
(It doesn't' matter whether you audience is one woman or 2 dozen women. These principles work regardless and irrespective of numbers).
Another principle is: observe who is most responsive to your words.
Example: let's say you are at a poetry reading and you are going to get up on stage and read some steamy seduction poems, like my "Fascination" poem which is actually in the BHSC.
What you want to do is SLOWLY read the poem, pausing as you go and make eye contact with the audience. Watch to see which women are most strongly responding: who is getting all "doggy dinner bowl", with wide open eyes, lips parted, breathing heavy, even nipples erect.
THOSE are the girls you will want to talk to, afterwards.
Whenever I am in a group of women, I always watch to see who is most responsive. Those are the ones I will zero in on for more attention.
Ok. Good questions. I hope the answers get you started.
RJ
VERY IMPORTANT P.S. I am shipping off the very first DVD copies of my newest product: Secrets Of Gold-Walk-Ups How To Use Speed Seduction To Easily Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere (and never worry about what to say).
Learn to meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say:
Just click here NOW:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
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